Shiny Object

Most often, it’s enough to have a funny hat and a funny suit to stand out. People will notice you, but if the thing you’re doing is worthless, then you’re just a clown in a funny costume. If, besides the costume, your work provides an extraordinary experience, then you’re Lady Gaga, Marylin Manson, Salvador Dali and many others who used a shiny object tactics.  The way you look is less important than the thing you

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time will tell

Sometimes we meet people who work in the same field as we do but they are much more successful: they have a bigger audience, more sales, more customers and more attention. Then, we meet their work and our first thought is – but, I can do better than this shit! It doesn’t deserve the attention it’s getting. Our first impulse is to reveal the fraudulent work and to show everybody how bad it is; hence

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If there is a will, there is a way

My mother often says: If there is a will, there is a way. If there isn’t a will, there is an excuse. That is probably the most valuable life lesson which I’ve learned. Whenever I found myself in a dead end, I would remember these words and I would check twice whether I’ve considered all the options before finding an excuse for not achieving something. It’s easy to find an excuse; it’s rainy; it’s hot;

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Philosophize

In Serbia, we tend to say that someone philosophizes when: we don’t understand what they are talking about; we are forced to listen; they complain; we don’t agree with somebody’s opinion; they demand something extra from us; they make a drama out of nothing; when they spend more time talking than they should’ve; they are paid to talk; they point out the negative consequences of our behaviour; … Most often, philosophizing doesn’t have anything to

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Boredom

When was the last time you experienced boredom? I bet you can’t remember. Your pocket holds a supercomputer which offers a continuous source of entertainment. Recently, I’ve realized how much I miss boredom; to unplug from the grid and spend hours staring at water passing by my fishing bobber which isn’t moving. We often speak badly of boredom. It’s not pleasant because it forces us to sit with our thoughts, and we’re not ready to

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Willpower

Setting a goal is not enough. You will also need something called willpower. According to psychologists, willpower is a person’s ability to take control of their actions in pursuit of a greater goal. Those who lack willpower are missing the main tool for accomplishing a change in their lives, no matter how dissatisfied with their current situation they might be. Therefore, they expect someone else to do the hard job instead of them; politicians, parents,

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Norm

Most of the things people say about themselves are a lie. How many times how you met a person who says that they are a perfectionist, love to clean and can’t stand a mess, and then you visit their home and the first thing they do is to apologize for the mess because that day they didn’t have time or their dog has made a mess or who knows what. It’s the same with people

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Discipline

Being disciplined means doing things we should instead of thing we want to do. We often want the results but not the work. I should study for my exams in order to pass them, go to gym in order to look better, write a novel in order to finish it, but I would rather… Therefore, we often leave the things we should do for tomorrow simply because we don’t want to do them. Tomorrow, ‘ll

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Never Let Mo Go – Kazuo Ishiguro

Several months ago, when I decided to publicly state my opinions on books I read, I came up with two rules for myself: You don’t have to finish the books you don’t like You will never write about the book you don’t like Number one is simple – there are so many books in the world that I don’t have time to waste on the books I don’t like. The second rule came out of

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How Patient are We

It took us 9 months to grow from a single cell into a baby and yet another 20 years or so to grow into an adult human being; a cell by cell, and a day by day. The growth was that slow that it passed by unnoticed. Only when we look at our old pictures, we realize how little were we. Nature offers us numerous other examples of patience. How long does it take to

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