What is critique?

Are there human relations without critique?

The critique rarely says anything about you. Instead, it gives away a lot about the critic’s perception of you, or about their perception of something you did or failed to do.

If your actions are always rightful, there is nothing to worry about because you know you did exactly what needed to be done. That’s why it’s important knowing what’s right and acting in the right manner.

People will criticize you when you fail to fulfill their expectations.

If nobody criticizes you, it can be that nobody expects anything from you, which is much worse than failing to fulfill somebody’s expectations. It means that they didn’t expect anything from you in the first place.

The second reason you won’t be criticized is because you did exactly what they expected you to do. But, that also isn’t great, because fulfilling other people’s expectations often means doing something in their favor, and it’s not true that you always must act in favor of others. Sometimes, you need to take care of your own needs as well.

Therefore, if you’re hurt by a critique, see it as a tool that will help you find out what others expect from you, but it will still be up to you whether you want to fulfill these expectations.